Emily Lake
Might be a replicant
- Joined
- Jul 7, 2014
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- Atheist
There's no inference of meaning or intent. There's observation of the impact of your chosen verbiage.You seem to infer meaning and intent that is not what I implied or intended to imply.Ya think?I think that’s what I said?Actually most students stay in school and academic exits are uncommon.Actually very few students drop out of medical school. Those who do almost always do fir personal or financial reasons, not academic onesI dropped out for a few years because I got married and my spouse joined the military and they moved us to a different state.You do realize people drop out of school for all sorts of non-academic reasons.
Leading off my post with "Actually" comes across as disagreement. This is clearly in evidence by your confusion in response. To you, it sounds as if I'm disagreeing with you, even though I'm agreeing. The same is true for your post that I responded to. I'm clearly agreeing with LD, and adding my own personal experience to bolster his point. You responding with "Actually..." comes across as if you're disagreeing with me. But you're not.
And that's my point. Even if it's completely unintentional, you frequently write in a way that implies disagreement and opposition. It's very confusing, and it's been at the root of several arguments-that-aren't-arguments. You certainly don't have to take my advice, but I do hope you give some consideration and thought to whether or not your style of writing might contribute to friction. And whether or not a relatively minor alteration could avoid it.
You were confused when I responded to you with "Actually" when the content expressed agreement. The same is equally true when you responded to me with "Actually". In both cases, the leading word suggests disagreement... because that's how normal people use the phrase "actually" in a back-and-forth discussion.
And in case you were wondering... yes, I'm being a pain in your ass in order to make a point. Yes, I'm lecturing you about your use of language. Yes, I'm probably being a bit of a bitch. But I'm tired of arguing with you when the confusion is completely avoidable. I try very hard to make my posts clear and understandable. I re-write things a lot of times, because when I review it before posting, I realize it's confusing, or ambiguous, or I got off track and distracted from my actual point, or simply because what I wrote could be read in a different tone than I intended.
